A new week, and another great Formspring.me question!
I think I’m broken, I can’t get wet. It’s like my mind is in it but my body isn’t.
What’s wrong with me?
I can approach this from a few different angles, without having a conversation with you here are the things you need to think about before you consider that there is something wrong with you.
Anyone who comes to me with this question, I always ask if you take on any antidepressants? Anti-anxiety? Even recreationally counts. Anything for your heart, stomach or liver? All of these things could drop mood, and physical response.
Another little known cause of dryness without loss of wanting sex is Birth Control. It happens for some, not for others. There isn’t ONE form of birth control that I can say “yes, stay away from that one” because every women’s reaction to any BC on market is different.
Does your partner help you get turned on? Women’s bodies need more help than a flash of boob and a kiss to get ready for sex. Your mind is going, but your body might need some more caressing and licking to get the juices flowing.
When you masturbate, if you masturbate, do you notice how long it takes you to get to orgasm and when you start to get wetter? If you know how your body is reacting to stimulation, you can better help your partner get to know how to get your hotter and ready.
Since you aren’t here in front of me, I cannot tell your age. Age is a factor, as is weight, diet, stress and physical routine. If you are living as a healthy young adult and you haven’t already checked in with a doctor- it would be a good idea to talk to a doctor. Try making an appointment at Planned Parenthood.
Lastly, you may want it but you may not be physically attracted to your partner. This one is a stretch, but it is totally possible. You could be mad at your partner, or be ready to break up, or feel discouraged with yourself and are taking it out on him.
Either way, make your time together BE ABOUT YOUR TIME TOGETHER, not about your “problem”. If you are having fun, your body will soon follow likely.
The Solution is lubrication, help your body and pick up a luscious lubricant. I think a silicone lube might work better for you because it stays wetter longer and they are hypoallergenic. If you don’t, you’re going to end up causing little tares. Damage and dryness are not a fun thing, so treat your body right!
Check out your local store and see what selection they have, one of my favorite silicone lubricants is Pink, made by empowered products. Gel Sensual made by oceanus naturals is good too. Some shops even carry lube shooters to help place the lube where it needs to go. They’re funky looking, but it totally works.
Hope I made a dent and was able to help you out, if you or anyone else out there want more info feel free to write in.
